Why Do Men Cheat?

So, why is it that men hop from one woman to another so often, cheating over and over? Why do they disappear so often after having sex with a woman once or twice? Why do they make promises that they don't intend to uphold.

There are two main reasons as to why a man would cheat on a woman or simply move on:

1. The more common reason is something you have no control over and cannot and should not take personally - a man's drive for variety and novelty when it comes to sexual partners. It's a dream for most men to indulge in adventure of seeing many women simulatenously and having a constant "flow" of new sexual partners. For some men it's just a stage in life where they need to "get it out of their system" before they decide that they want a monogamous, long term relationship more than their sexual escapades. For others, the desire of novelty and variety never goes away, and they "play" as long as they can. You cannot change that and so can't many of the men who have that lifestyle.

2. The second reason, although less common, is very important to understand. Many men are blinded by their sexual attraction towards a a certain woman, and they truly believe that they are in love. However, shortly after having sex with a particular woman a man often realizes that there is nothing else that he wants from that woman besides sex. But in order for a man to stick around, he must be interested in a woman as a person - he must find her interesting and engaging and he must crave her social company. This is exactly the point where you - a woman - have a lot of control over. If you develop yourself, if you make yourself a more interesting person by learning new things and engaging in new activities, if you possess a great sense of humor, and a laid back attitude, if you are sarcastic and enjoy teasing and banter, if you are more feminine and elegant than the average woman, you are much more likely to find a man who will appreciate those qualities, realizing that they are not that common, and who will want to have a more meaningful relationship with you.

Arkady Itkin
www.PracticalHappiness.com
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Quiz - Are You a Possessive Lover?

To possess means to own. Do we own our partner? Do we own their time? Are they our slaves? If you ask anybody these questions, you will hear a definite no. But some of those who say no may be very possessive about their partner. The relationship breaks down after sometime hurting both the partners very badly.

Why are some people so possessive? Is that a complex of some kind? Are they afraid that their partner may be snatched away by somebody else? Or do they want their partner to spend all the time with them and no body else? Does suspicion come in to picture? Suppose you come across some emails of your partner. Would you look at them? Would you then ask your partner about the mails? What if your partner is late on a day? Are you happy to see them back or you are angry about their coming late? Do you demand the explanation for being late?

If your partner is speaking on phone in a low voice, does that make you feel suspicious? Do you suspect that they may be speaking with their past lover?

If someone sends an invitation to your partner for some party, do you insist that they should not go alone? Those who are possessive will try to control every minute of their partner's life. They never allow the partner to use anything gifted to them by anybody else. They do not want the partner to talk about the past. They rather hate that. They treat themselves as the superior of their partner and try and control every activity. In the end the partner refuses to take this any more and the relationship breaks-up.

To love somebody is a great feeling. But the result of love should be pleasure for both the partners. If one partner feels like an animal in cage, that is not true love.

Best Sexual Positions - For Getting Pregnant

Contrary to what anyone may think, a pregnant woman has strong sexual urges, as well as her partner, and there is no reason not to indulge them.

Pregnancy sex positions takes into account the obvious temporary changes in the woman's anatomy.
Being pregnant is not being ill, and with some common sense and knowledge, the couple's sex life can continue without interruption.

Pregnancy Segments

A pregnancy is truly divided into three segments.

During the first trimester of 90 days, the woman's body is undergoing vast hormonal and physiological changes, even if she does not exhibit such changes.

These include breast changes, quite frequent urination, nausea, and so on.

The second trimester is the basic growth period, where the body has settled down, and besides a slow gradual growth; the woman suffers mostly from the inability to concentrate.

The last trimester has the most changes, with additional hormonal changes, large belly growth, constant urination and moodiness. Nevertheless, in most couples the desire for sexual relations does not abate.

The Best Pregnancy Sex Positions

Obviously the couple can forget the missionary and all lady-on-her -back positions. This however gives the happy couple the ability to really experiment and retain all the loving tenderness that is that glue that
keeps couples together.

A word of caution.

Each of the positions described below need a great deal of feedback from the woman during the whole process. Furthermore , the man must refrain from any sudden or spasmodic movements, and rather, adapt to the woman's changed physiology.

Lady on Top.

This is best position for the last trimester, but is fine throughout the whole pregnancy. The woman is in control and can control the depth of the man's penis as it penetrates her, and the speed of the movements.

Cliff Hanger.

This is a great position for the couple and very much loved by the man. The woman will lay face up on the edge of the bed, but her legs are hanging off the bed with her feet on the floor. The man approaches her from the front either standing or kneeling, and easily penetrates the woman. As the man can penetrate very deeply, the woman must caution him to go slow and follow her advise on how deep to go and how fast to thrust.

The Two Spoons.

A great position, with pregnancy or not, it allows for no pressure at all on the woman's belly and abdomen areas. The couple lay side to side, and the man enters from the rear. The penetration is not too deep, and the movement can be coordinated as in a slow and romantic dance.

Easy Doggy Position.

Here the woman is on her hands and knees, and the woman's belly is able to hang without discomfort. The man enters from behind, and the woman can use some pillows to support her upper torso. The man can trust without worry, and as penetration is not as deep as would be expected, there is very little discomfort to the woman.

It is advised that couple try and stimulate the clitoris either manually or orally. This will give the woman great pleasure, and without any fear of consequences. However, the woman is also advised to not to do this laying on her back after the 16th week (4th month) of the pregnancy. It can be done easily in a sitting or standing situation.

So enjoy this wonderful time in the couple's lives, and keep your sexual life alive and well.
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What To Say To Meet Women Anywhere!

You see, knowing what to SAY to a woman is utterly and totally dependent on WHAT YOU CAN OBSERVE ABOUT THAT WOMAN.

It's not so much a matter of what to say.

No, the real secret of "opening" women is, knowing what to observe, knowing what to notice, and even KNOWING WHAT TO GET CURIOUS ABOUT.

Does that make sense?

Also, the approach to opening her might differ a bit if she is at a coffee house, quietly studying, as opposed to in a loud restaurant or party, right?

Why?

Because the CONTEXT she is in and what you NOTICE about her is going to be different.

If she's studying, and you notice that she's having a hard time; thinking really hard, talking to herself outloud or just thinking "OUTLOUD" in her head, it would NOT make sense to walkup and ask her opinion about the great band that is playing or where she bought her cool bicycle.

So, I will say it again. The most important thing, first and foremost, is NOT what you say, but the context she is in, and what you can observe about her and the setting she is in.

Now, many guys ask me about compliments. Should I give them?Is it a good way to first "open up" talking to a woman? If so,what should I compliment?

Ok. I'll repeat: it depends on the context, where she is,what she is doing, and what you NOTICE and can OBSERVE.

Look: whether it is opening her by using a compliment, or asking her a question about something, or making a comment about something she's doing or something going on in the environment,I will ask myself the same question, "What can I notice about this person that I can use to make a connection?"

Now, let's say I notice something about her that I DO find worth complimenting. My rules for complimenting are as follows:

1. NO sexual content in the compliments. That means I don't compliment on her great boobs, great legs, great butt, etc. No woman (no half-way SANE woman) wants a drooling lecher.

2. All compliments to be delivered with good eye contact (infact, ANY openers are delivered this way) with a smile on my face AND in my eyes ( I sort of make them twinkle a bit) and deliverd with a MATTER of fact voice tone.

This means I don't over do it with my tone of voice. The compliment is delivered, matter of fact, with no concern on my part whether she will accept it, reject it or anything in between.

It is NOT about her accepting or rejecting what I say. It is ONLY about me wanting to say what I have to say, and any response she has is OK WITH ME.

Really, this is about the sub-text. This means, you see, that there is the surface message, the actual words I say. Those can be important.

But the sub-text is the unspoken or implied message I am delivering about me and how I walk through the world; that take full responsibility for how I feel about myself, my situation, the events and circumstances in my life, and I don't need anyone to approve or validate my message.

Now, trust me. When you come from THAT place, and add in a touch of humor....

Almost Anything You Say Will Get A Good Response!

Notice something else. This is a great but different KIND of confidence. It's not the kind of confidence that say, loudly, "I KNOW I AM GOING TO GET WHAT I WANT".

It's more of a, "If I get what I want, that's fine and good, and if not, that's ok too. I'm having fun regardless".

Ok. Back to compliments then.

I prefer to compliment women on the following things:

1. How they carry themselves or how they move. I enjoy awoman who moves beautifully and/or who has great posture. I will tell them so, as follows, "I just wanted to tell....I think you have perfect.......posture. You just carry yourself beautifully."

Notice the ....... This indicates a pause in your speaking. I don't run everythingtogetherintoonesentencelikethis.

No. I take....my....time. I pause, right before I tell them what I am going to tell them, so they will get curious about what I am going to say, and therefore be more receptive.

The pauses in the music are as much a part of the music as the notes, to use a metaphor.

2. How they are dressed. I like to compliment on style. So I will say, "I just wanted to tell you...I admire women with class and style...so I had to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE."

Note that this is what I call an IMPLIED compliment. I didn't' directly tell her I think SHE has class and style. I said I admire women with class and style, so I had to say "hi".That IMPLIES that I think she has class and style.

Why is this important?

Well, by implying the compliment, she has to use her imagination to interpret what you meant.

Imagination is an ACTIVE process, and so she doesn't resist the message, as she herself has to take an active hand in creating it!

Implied compliments are very useful in slipping past any resistance or skepticism to your message!

3. I will compliment on their "energy". I know this is a New Age, California kind of thing, but women are into "energy" or "vibes". It doesn't matter if you believe in it or not-although I hope one day you will.

The important thing is, MOST women believe in it.

So if I notice a woman has a calm, radiant, happy demeanor, I will say, "I just wanted to tell you.....I think you have..a beautiful....energy about you, and it just made me have to say "hi". I'm YOUR NAME HERE".

Ok. Another major way to meet women is to say something funny; make an observation or comment that is humorous, based on something you can observe.

Now, again, I can't give you a "one line fits all" example, because again, it's based on what you are observing in the actual situation. So you will have to observe her, asking, "What can I notice that I can use to make a connection?".

Next, ask yourself, "How can I phrase that in a clever, funny way that gets attention and makes her laugh?"

This takes some practice. But you can get good at it.

Now, again, I hesitate to give word for word examples, because it depends on what you observe.

Here Are Some Approaches I Do NOT Recommend:

1. Asking her the time, or for directions. It's trite, lame, and then where do you go from there? If you are terribly shy and can't even talk to women, ok, you can start here. But learn to do something else quickly.

2. Being insulting or in any way rude. I don't care what you might have heard. Insulting a woman is stupid. Any woman with choice is just going to move on. If she's kind, she won't insult you back. If she isn't, she just might give a verbal tongue lashing, and that's not the kind of tongue action you want!

3. Invading her space when I meet her. Once I make my initial opening, tell her my name, shake her hand; I then actually take a step back, away from her, to give her back her space.

Women tell me that, to them, it demonstrates respect. It also indicates that, while I am strong enough to come up and meet them, I am also concerned with their safety, and they like that combination. And finally, it indicates a challenge: just because she gave me a good initial response to my opener, doesn't mean she has me! It establishes a challenge, right away.

Don't Take Your Lover For Granted

Tom recently had a quarrel with his fiancée, Mandy.
It was all about a break down in communication between the two of them. They just realized that they were drifting apart daily, and were not talking as much as they used to.
Where they would talk and chat for hours on end before, they were now spending minutes to just talk generally. They didn't connect wth each others' hearts like they used to before.

It didn't need a diviner to tell them both that they were about to split up. Despite the love that they once had for each other, the ominous signs of a separation were there for any observer to see.

Many times, people in a relationship tend to take each other for granted, especially if they have been together for quite a while.

Assumptions about each other start to come in, and as a wise man said, assumptions are the mother of frustrations. Typically, frustrations start to set in between the two of them, and they begin to grow apart.

Taking your partner for granted is the sure way to kill the love you have for him or her. No one likes to be treated casually.
After all, your partner is supposed to be the most important person, and the most special person in your life.

He or she must be treated that way at all times. Both of you must not stop being courteous and affectionate towards each other. You should continue to do those things that endeared you to each other at the beginning of your relationship.

That is the way to keep the fires of love burning for each other.
Don't make assumptions about your partner. Always clarify issues, and at all times, keep the lines of communication open.
This way, you will avoid a potential break up in your relationship.

Dating Advice for Men That Works

I have been utterly useless with women in the past. Having spent many years of my youthful life failing with women, I decided to make a change. Now after years of learning, trial and error, reading books, and development I have become successful in becoming attractive with women and dating. In fact I even coach men one on one in the "field" like the real life version of Hitch.

What follows is dating advice that works:

Dating Advice 1:

The first 3-4 dates are very important. Dating is like a game. If you play it right, you should have been able to escalate to kissing and more. You see within this time frame, the girl decides whether or not you're worth it. If you have not escalated during these dates, you will very likely get into the LJBF (Lets Just Be Friends) category and getting out of this my friends is near to impossible.

Dating Advice 2:

Make the dates interesting. Avoid the usual dating scenes like cinemas, clubs and bars. Be unpredictable. Go for ACTION dates – these are dates with a lot of activity. The key word here is VENUE CHANGE. There are reasons for this. You see when we change scenes during a date; subconsciously we feel we have spent a lot more time with the other person, hence building familiarity and comfort. This also has the benefit of making it more interesting.

Dating Advice 3:

For crying out load, STOP with the gifts such as flowers and chocolates. Why? You have only known each other briefly, and doing things like that comes off as APPROVAL SEEKING, and suspicious. You could do these things after you're in the relationship, and want to show your appreciation, but too early, and you will KILL the ATTRACTION.

Dating Advice 4:

Not knowing you are the MAN and she is the WOMAN. As the man you will take the lead. Being the leader has many attractive qualities. Back in tribal times, the leader takes the choice of all the females. This has not changed and still in our subconscious programming. These days' women are still looking for those qualities in a man. So how do you take the lead? Decide where you are going in advance, and take the lead in decisions.

Dating Advice 5:

When a woman dates a man she is thinking "he seems nice, let's find out more about each other". Too many guys view a woman they are dating as their potential WIFE. As you can imagine this puts a lot of pressure on the guy. They become frigid and cannot BE THEMSELVES. My advice is DON'T DO IT. Have the same view as the woman. You are screening her to see if she is worth it. So relax, be laid back and enjoy yourself.

Dating Advice 6:

STOP with the needy COMPLIMENTS.


"Oh, you're so beautiful today"


"Wow so gorgeous"

These kinds of compliments send shivers down a woman SPINE people. You are there to find out more about each other and have fun. Dating her just because she is beautiful lowers your standards and intelligent women consider it an insult. They think you are shallow! DON'T DO THAT. If you want to give a compliment, give something sincere and genuine. Always include a reason for doing so. For example, "I like your top; it goes very well with the colour of your dress".

I could go on and on about things to do and not to do when dating women. I have only touched on some of the issues…

Pros and Cons of the Age Gap

Being with someone who is several years older or younger than you can be both a blessing and a curse. Before you decide to get serious, you should know what you're getting into.

If you're younger...

PROS

You get to be with someone mature. Someone who doesn't "act out" or throw tantrums just because you happened to mention that you have a crush on a celebrity. Also, because of your lover's life experience, he/she can dish out valuable advice that you couldn't get from your friends.

You can learn a thing or two - and I'm not just talking about life lessons. Older people have had more sexual experiences, and if you've got the right lover, he or she won't hesitate to teach you some new "moves".

Your lover is more interesting than people your age. Again, this is mostly because of life experiences. Older men and women have gone through enough problems and opportunities, and they have several funny, inspiring, painful, and horrifying stories to tell. Also, if the age gap is wide enough, the type of music or movies that he or she likes may be completely different from yours, and getting a taste of these "oldies" can help you grow culturally.

CONS

Emotional baggage. The older man and the older woman have enough emotional baggage to drag you down. Beware of verbally psychoanalyzing their actions - it's unlikely that they want a "kid" to tell them what they did wrong in their lives. Instead, be understanding and make sure that your older lover isn't an emotional vampire who will suck you dry.

If you're older...

PROS

The younger man/woman can inspire you with a sense of awe. Having a young, new body next to you can knock a few years off of your own age. You get to do more youthful things, and you tap the mindset of today's youth.

The younger lover doesn't have that much emotional baggage. This means that things are more "happy-go-lucky" and smoother with the younger lover. You won't get late night conversations about every ex that's ever broken his or her heart. Also, there's not much that you can get compared to. Odds are, if he or she says that you're the best sex in his/her life, it's true.

The younger lover looks up to you. This is because of all the advice and life lessons you have to offer. You've been through a lot, and your lover knows this. Odds are, you're the first one he or she talks to during times of conflict.

CONS

The younger lover can be immature. Sometimes, young lovers are such perfectionists that they seek all sorts of things that you can't give. This is why, if you want to go out with someone younger, make sure that he or she is mature for his or her age.

An Instant Way to Destroy Your Fear of Rejection By Women

Having a fear of rejection by a woman is one of the worst feelings in the world. This is especially true when all you want to do is initiate a conversation with her. Not only is she turning you down, she's also insinuating that something is wrong with you.

No matter which way you slice it, rejection hurts! In fact the fear of rejection is so painful that many guys avoid women as a way to avoid this agony.

The good news is there is a great technique you can use to eliminate ANY chance of rejection!

Do you know what it is?

Well it's simple…

You approach women who WANT to be approached!

Now, you might be wondering how to located women want to be approached. Well the following technique provides a proven system which eliminates almost all chances of rejection.

It's simple…

Whenever you spot an interesting woman, you lock eyes on her and wait. Eventually she'll glance around the room and look your way. Which this happens, you give her a warm smile and wave at her.

If she smiles and waves back, then you approach her and start a conversation.

Sounds too easy to be true?

Well I find this technique is a great way for many guys to approach women. Unlike other techniques, you won't resort to using cheesy pick up lines or say something stupid. Instead you'll eliminate your fear of rejection by approaching women who have given you "permission" to start talking to them.

In fact, by smiling and acknowledging your eye contact, this woman has given you the green light to come up and talk to her. Since knows you've checked out and hasn't avoided your eye contact, you're being given a guaranteed women to approach.

What's funny is this technique works really well, but few guys think to implement it. I am personally surprised at the number of guys who fail to use this technique. It works women are like you- they like to check people out. By locking eyes with you and smiling, they are indicating a level of attraction.

To summarize, the next time you see an attractive women, make eye contact with her, smile and then wave. If she locks eyes with you and smiles back, then you know she's open to being approached. So all you have to do is walk up and initiate a conversation.

When you implement this technique into your life, you'll quickly get rid of your fear of rejection by women!

Dating Tips for Shy Single People

Shyness is a social affliction. It is a fear of mixing with others. Shy people and unhappy people have one thing in common: they mainly focus upon themselves. But self-focus comes from insecurity and kills interaction. The greatest feelings of self-worth come from our positive effect on others. It has been shown that low self-esteem goes hand-in-hand with individuals who put too much attention inward. Confidence comes by doing something daily that focuses on someone, or something, else in a positive way. My hero Denzel Washington once said in a film, "A person wrapped up in himself makes a very small package!" Indeed.

I often wonder why anyone would boast about being shy, because shyness is a focus upon fear and the self which increases the inability to engage another person in basic interaction. When you are in a situation where you are meeting new people and interacting with others you immediately become less nervous. Life only works reciprocally. If we merely expect from others we tend to get very little until we begin to give too. Many people who have not learned how to share find this giving difficult and simply wait with open hands to receive. Yet it is very clear that the people who give the most tend to receive in abundance. When we focus upon ourself, there is a limited field of vision which obscures the whole picture and gives us just one narrow view of the world – ours. We always expect something from others emotionally, yet are unprepared to give much back.

A shy person worries constantly about the REACTION of others and what they might think; whether they are WORTHY enough in that situation and how they will be TREATED because of their low self-esteem. Being so focused upon themself and their perceived treatment, they have little to give to others, which keeps the shy one in the same situation – being sidelined, alone and feeling excluded.

There are 6 main ways to overcome shyness, listed in order of importance:

1. Be proud of yourself and appreciate who you are, regardless of your 'faults'. You cannot be acceptable to others if you reject yourself. How can they affirm what you yourself dislike and reject? If you learn to accept your faults as well as your strengths, to cut yourself some slack, others will too. If you have to change yourself in any way for the potential date, that's the worst start to a relationship. You will always be trying to please and feel inadequate for it.

2. Shift the focus from yourself and push it outwards. When you shift your focus, you learn to relax more. Everything does not appear to be such a big deal. Relaxing comes through many forms: making a phone call to someone for an easy chat – they might be so grateful for your contact; going for a walk; listening to your favourite music; doing some puzzles; talking online to someone; sending a simple email to that valued person; reading a book and, above all, accepting everything that is happening at that moment instead of getting stressed about it or trying to control it.

3. Ask as many questions as possible. It doesn't matter how difficult this is, learn to ask questions, especially with a potential date. Any question is indicative of curiosity and is a doorway to dialogue and interaction. It does not matter how simple and trivial the first question is, that is vital to open that door and it shows your interest, making you seem less one-dimensional and more engaging.

4. Do not always wait for others to act, chances are they are shy too! Pluck up the courage to make the first move sometimes. If you don't try to engage the people you are interested in they will never know your feelings and others will beat you to it. Belief and desire need courage and conviction around them to get the required results.

5. Join in activities, like a local activity club, dating club, or becoming a volunteer. These are the surest ways of boosting your self-esteem and getting that date as you remove the focus from yourself and give the attention to others to reinforce them. You will feel wonderful seeing the results of your actions and the difference you're making to others. Most important, people will suddenly want to know you because they feel valued!

6. Begin to appreciate your world and what you have today and see the difference as your life changes in front of you. Don't take life for granted and the blessings you have. Stop and smell the roses so that you too can smell much sweeter!

When to Say I Love You - How to Know if It is Time to Say the Three Big Words

When to say I love you? Falling in love can be likened to a lot of different things, probably because falling for someone is a different experience for every person. Some people compare falling in love to getting hit between the eyeballs by a very large baseball bat. For others, love sneaks up on them like a small, furry pooch with very sharp teeth that slinks up behind them to bite them on the butt. Yet others compare it to various forces of nature that tend to start out slow but build momentum unstoppable until it pretty much crashes down on them like a tsunami. But still the big question is how and when to say I love you.

Regardless of HOW you tend to fall in love, one of the most difficult things about it is undoubtedly trying to figure out WHEN to tell the girl you've fallen in love with the three simple words "I Love You". It's difficult to decide when to say I love you. This simple and seemingly harmless phrase carries with it a wealth of emotions, ranging from ecstatic hopefulness to abject terror. Here are a few tips to help you determine when you to say I love you to someone and NOT get your emotional tail kicked as a result.

First things first: examine your feelings. Before saying anything, and to know when to say I love you, be sure you're in love with your prospective partner. Admittedly love can be construed a lot of ways, but generally we ALL want to find someone that we can spend the rest of our lives with. So first things first, are you just after a quick romp in the sack, or are you after something a bit more meaningful? If sex is all you're after, don't even bother talking about love. You can say the words, but when you say I love you without sincerity, they won't be honest and most girls are sharp enough to know bovine manure when they spot it. On the other hand, if you think that you can stand to wake up to your potential partner's face every morning, can put up with her little foibles and irritating habits without going berserk, and if you think that you'll wind up having this aching empty spot in your heart if you lose her for good, THEN you can tell her you love her with more sincerity. This is when you say I love you and you know it feels right and you mean it from the bottom of your heart.

Now, aside from YOUR feelings, also examine her feelings. When you say I love you it's not just your feelings that you have to consider. Granted this is much, much, much more difficult to do than to say. Girls are past masters at masking their emotions behind deadpan expressions and knowing looks. I'm sure you know the "looks" I'm talking about... but thankfully, there are at least a few simple indicators that you can rely on as clues to whether your feelings are one sided or mutual and hints when to say I love you. Laughter and smiles are one of the simplest clues. Make a girl laugh and she MIGHT like you. Another indicator is conversation. IF all your talks are one sided, you can usually forget about it. Big hint here: girls LOVE to talk. If your girl is clamming up, it means something is wrong somewhere. Smiles and conversation aside, a third indicator is time spent together. No girl would spend large amounts of time with you unless she enjoys your company. This MIGHT also mean that she regards you as a friend and not a potential hubby, but let's face it; the BEST marriages start out as friendships.

Now, the final tip is probably going to be either the easiest thing in the world for you to do, or the toughest, depending on how you think. The question of WHEN to say I love you to her is a mind boggling experience for people who like to plan things out in advance. You see, love isn't logical, and trying to apply logic to it with things like planning a date with a perfect setting, romantic candles, etc., etc., etc., will often lead to a case of emotional hemorrhoids. Take my advice on this: if you love a girl, don't bother trying to think of WHEN you should tell her or when to say I love you. Keep it business as usual, go out, keep her company, and have fun. Then, in the middle of all that, you will know when to say I love you, there will come a point, when she will say or do one of those things that endear her to you so much, and you'll feel all warm and fuzzy but comfortable around her. Then at that point, just TELL her. The sheer spontaneity of it, combined with your heart most likely being in your eyes when you say I love you, will make a bigger impact on her than a planned scenario.

Truth About What A Woman Wants On A Online Dating Site And What She Is Willing To Accept

If you look at what women put on their online dating profiles in terms of what they want in a man, you might find yourself coming up short of her expectations.

Yet, the truth of the matter is the majority of times what she says she wants is something that she has never had.

In the cases where she has had it she really didn't want it and only wants it now because she doesn't know how to get it.

In other words, the man that she wants and the one that can attract her, most of the time is not the same man.

What this means for men is you can never disqualify a woman you like online because her profile wants a man that isn't you.

At the same time, there needs to be something other than her pictures that is attracting you to her.

Women who have managed to write enough to let you know what they do and don't want in a man; usually have something in their profile that you can connect with.

All you have to do is connect where the connection can be made.

Once you express that connection to a woman, it then becomes her choice when it comes to deciding on if she should respond, despite the fact that you are not what she says she wants in her profile.

Then again there might be some women who will refuse to respond to anyone other than whom she says she wants.

In general, these are the types of women who you wouldn't connect with anyways.

In the end, no matter what, it is your responsibility to let a woman know of your interest.

Sometimes, all a woman is really looking for is a man with enough courage to connect with her in a way other than physical and the only way to find out is to initiate contact.

Dating After Divorce

Getting back in the dating world after a divorce can be difficult and downright scary. Unfortunately, divorce can leave you emotionally scarred and feeling less than desirable to the opposite sex. It is important to take a step back and evaluate what you want and what you are ready before jumping into the dating scene once again.

You don't have to rush back into a serious relationship. Enjoy dating and just getting out there to meet new people. You need to take the time to discover who you are now and what you really want in a relationship. Getting too serious too fast after a divorce can lead into some major problems. Date many different types of women before you settle down again.

Your self esteem has probably taken a big hit, so it is best to take some "me" time to work on yourself physically and emotionally. It is an excellent time to join a gym or take up a new sport or hobby. Until you face the emotional baggage you have from your past relationship, you cannot have a healthy relationship. Take the time to figure out your past mistakes to make sure you do not repeat them with your future relationships. If you need professional help to get over emotional issues, seek it out before you move forward with someone else. You will be a better partner and you will feel better yourself.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable or you won't be able to give 100% to your next relationship. Love can hurt, but you can't let it make you bitter inside or you will miss out on so much in life. Just because you have been hurt in the past doesn't mean the next relationship you have will end in the same way. Most importantly, don't make your future relationships suffer for your past. It is not fair to assume all women are the same.

If you are ready for a new beginning, then online dating is a great way to get started after a divorce because you don't have to find a single social circle. If you have been out of the game for several years, you can't possibly know what to expect. Online dating makes it easy to meet single people of any age.

East European Girls and Russian Ukrainian Mail Order Brides Tips, E-Romance and Online Dating

The Roman matron asked Rabbi Yossi ben Halafta:

"How many days did it take G-d to create the world?" He answered: "It took him 6 days, and that is what written in Shmot 31:17: "During 6 days G-d created sky and earth…»

And what has he been doing since then?-asked the matron.

He has been arranging the marriages. This man will be a husband for that women etc- said Rabbi Yossi

But I can also do that!- said matron. – I have lots of female and male slaves. I can easily make up couples from them.

Rabbi Yosef said: You think that arranging marriages is very easy? But for the G-d it is just as hard as to split Red Sea.

After Yosef left, the matron called 2000 of her slaves, ont thousand of female slaves were standing in front on thousand male slaves. Then she said: This man will be a husband of that woman, that woman will be a wife of that man and so on. The marriages were made the same night.

But the next morning just married couples came to matron, one man had a wound on his head, another one didn't have an eye, a woman had a broken leg. They started to shout: I don't want that woman! I can't live with that man!'

The matron asked to call Rabbi Yossi and when he came, she said: Your Tora is right, and what you told me is true.

Rabbi Yossi answered: Now you see! You thought hat arranging marriages is an easy task. And it turned out to be harder then splitting the Red Sea. Pesikta da-Rav Kahana 2:4

Matching people is not an easy task at all. We are all different and of course every person has special views and likes. It is impossible to find somebody who will match you 100%, but you should not worry about that! What is important is to find somebody who will be willing to compromise and solve the problems together.

Many people think it is impossible to create a good family with somebody who is not from your own culture. Our experience has proved that most of Russian women actually have the life values that men wished American women had: they are loyal, sincere, family oriented (doesn't mean that she only wants to stay at home, but the first priority is always family, many people think that in Russian culture women are housewifes, and all they can do is to take care of house and kids, in fact most of the girls have jobs, but they would not put in in fron of family interests). Russian women pay lots of attention to their outlook.

All those qualities surely make it easier for a man to find a great match. We believe that matching people is a serious process and it has to be fully supervised by professionals. We wish you good luck in finding your match!

The Repressed Intuition & Nature of Women

Natural women know how to get the man they want. How do I know? It's happened to me many times. They know all the small things to do to maintain your interest (including sex).

Their intuition is at mastery level. They will flirt, they will show nonverbal body language and interest. They will even approach a man dare they miss the opportunity to connect with them.

What happened to our American women? They left their intuition at the door when they traded it in for social and personal advancement.

They left their natural character behind. It's completely repressed.

They don't flirt, they don't show emotion, they don't approach men (though they'll readily reject them), they're dissmive and aloof or otherwise prickteasing and pretentious.

It's up to you to know the truth of this behavior and be grounded in the FACT that none of it is natural behavior.

Therein lies your hope. You were never the problem in the first place, you just weren't cognitive to their behavior.

You were also influenced by social powers beyond your own recognition to behave a certain way around them to your discord.

Natural behavior is missing and I cover this in my 'secret to women' clearly so that you can 'get' what's going on and understand women and your relation to them.

Though our women have taken on new opportunities and exciting advancements it actually screwed up their ability to get the relationships they desired with men.

Many usually find themselves attracting all the wrong types of men. They wonder why they can't meet any men when they forgot how to send out nonverbal signals of interest because they became more like man.

Natural women don't get into these problems because they weren't influenced by others agendas or the false need for career advancement. They can see the characteristics of men very clearly.

My point? You've had the wrong model of sexuality in the first place.

Just because our women have adapted to personal advancement and social prestige doesn't mean that it's their true biological or sexual nature.

Their behavior and your lack of cognition (as compared to your own 'inner game') is what has really thrown you 'off'.

It just means they've been influenced by their socio-cultural reality, just like (more natural) women in other cultures have been influenced by their environmental reality.

Don't reward women for selling out. Value them on their natural character. It's the little truth they have left. It's the only grounding that exists.

Inner development throws off all of their relationships and social adaptation means they're just being used and manipulated by someone else. There's no basis for grounding other than our pure, uncorrupted birthright.

Natural character is love, romance, emotion, joy, bliss, excitement, happiness and hope. Women who 'develop' and take on career opportunities leave all of these truthful emotions behind.

Those who adapt socially lose all of them and get grounded on all of the wrong things.

The true nature is within all of these women and it is the path to sex and seduction. You can be the man who sees it, knows it and can bring them out of their adaptive misery for a short time.

Dating Ukraine Girl - First Meeting With Her Family

If you have already been to Ukraine you will know how proud local people are when it comes to family and achievements. If you have not been here before: here are a few clues how to understand the traditions.

Ukrainians are hospitable. Sometimes they are so hospitable, that a foreigner gets scared and simply wants to leave as soon as possible. If you have spent so much money and time to come to this country, then you will be sorry, if all of a sudden you leave. Ukrainian girls will try most of the time to explain this or that and why, but you will have so many questions that it will be hard to get the answers to all of them immediately. Here are a few short guidelines that cover the basics of Ukrainian cordiality, as for the details, do not be afraid to ask your girlfriend.

Family plays an important part in the life of every Ukrainian girl. Young women live with their parents until they get married. Sometimes they leave their homes for a few years while they are in the university, but as soon as their studies are over, they go back home. They respect their parents so much that sometimes they are ready to follow a career in medicine or public sector, because according to the old generation these professions are prestigious.

Young ladies have a rebellious nature, they know that there is a whole world full of chances and good possibilities and they often search for the perfect husband out of Ukrainian boundaries. Still because they are very close to their families, their parents know about their steps and even if they cannot always agree with them, they support their daughters.

That is why when you arrive in Ukraine to meet face to face with your lady, it is quite likely that you will be invited to a family dinner. Most modern families are open-minded but they still keep some traditions. For example if you are visiting the girl's family, you should take small present for the parents. A good idea is to buy a bottle of fine wine or whiskey for the father and a big bunch of flowers for the mother.

If the girl has brothers or sisters, you should think about taking something small for them. The presents depend on their age. If they are 16-18 or less, you can go with a block of chocolate. If they are older, a smaller bouquet for the girls or good magazine on fashion or sports will be a great solution.

During the dinner or supper you should be polite and pay attention to everyone. Probably the parents will speak only in Ukrainian or Russian and definitely you will need interpreting help. Language barriers may make you nervous but do not let this to ruin your time together.

When you talk, speak slowly and try to have as clear pronunciation as possible. Wait for someone to finish the speech and then ask for translation. Alternatively, when you have something to say, ask for excuse that you do not speak the local language and ask your Ukraine girl to translate for your words.

Surely the parents will have a lot of questions: what do you do, do you own house, car, do you have brothers and sisters, what are your parents like, do they work or they are retired, what you do in your spare time and so on. Before the meeting try to answer these questions and ask your date for translation of some of the words. Learn a few Ukrainian words and surely with will make great positive impression on your future parents in law!

Internet Dating Tips and Advice

An online internet dating site is (in my opinion) the easiest way to find a partner in today's world. With the ever-increasing technology aids, not only can you correspond with someone, but also see them in real-time. It used to be that an internet dating site was a taboo and people just didn't trust it or the quality of people they might meet. But even so, you run the same risks as if you were to actually meet the person face-to-face. What is the difference? Well, you can't smell a person through an internet dating site!

This article was written to give free dating tips and dating advice to those who are unfamiliar to internet dating. Or maybe you've had a couple bad experiences and are wondering why you are running into "duds". My dating advice is not aimed particularly at either men or women, but looks at both sides. I am not a psychologist or therapists and all dating advice and tips are my personal thoughts found through my internet dating experiences.

So why choose online dating services rather than conventional dating? I'll list a few benefits:

• Millions of people from around the world sign up for internet dating services everyday. Also there are thousands of dating sites coming online everyday. So not only can you find a person to match your needs but also a dating service built around your specific need.
  • You're in the US, you can meet someone from Australia
  • Find someone in a different state that you would enjoy visiting.
  • There are Asian dating, Jewish dating, Christian dating, adult dating, senior dating, hiking dating, dog walking dating sites and the list goes on.
• Your search criteria can be more detailed, less compromising later.
  • What hobbies are they into?
  • What are their turn-offs?
  • What are their interests
• People tend to be more honest through correspondence. You know the true person quicker.
• You can still have an online date even if you're sick.
• It's safe because you're not in the same physical environment, at least initially.
  • You don't need to meet the person until you are totally comfortable. Never meet anybody unless you are 99% comfortable.
  • The first date or 2nd, 3rd, and 4th should be out in public.
  • Let someone know where you are going.
  • Ladies, I highly recommend you bring a friend or double-date!
  • Do not allow the person to pick you up. Provide your own transportation
  • Bring defense items - pepper spray, whistle, gps tracking device. Be careful of bringing weapons that can harm you - knife, gun, clubs...etc
  • Ladies, even if the date is going well and it's the 1st date, DO NOT be persuaded to get into a car alone with him. If he is a predator, he'll get agitated and possibly upset. If this happens, then CONGRATULATIONS you may just SAVED YOUR LIFE and walk away now! A real gentleman will understand your fear and rather spend time with you than miss a party, concert or whatever. Just be sure to let him know prior to the date that you will not leave the initial meeting place with him unless your friend can come along.

Those are just a few reasons and each person will benefit differently based on their character and personality. The precautions would also relate to conventional dating practices and not just internet dates.

So what are some of the drawbacks of internet dating?

• Do they smell?
• Are they really writing or just cut-and-pasting?
• Cameras and lighting can be manipulated to hide certain features (flaws).
• The photos in the ads maybe professionally done or retouched and not be a true reflection of the person

As with the benefits, there are other downsides to internet dating that aren't listed and will vary from person to person.

So who is the best internet dating service? That's a hard question to answer because there are so many variables and there is no one best service. I say the best dating site is the one you find what you are looking for on. Luckily, most are free to join, although you will get limited functionality and features of the program. But at least you can get an idea of the types or kinds of people who have joined that particular internet dating service. There are more and more online dating services that are specific to certain groups like - people who are in the service, Christian dating, pet lovers dating, and so on. The major dating sites will have these people as well, you'll just need to sift through the members to find out if someone shares your passions or hobbies. What it boils down to is that the more people to select from, the better your chances of finding a match.

So, does internet dating really work? Yes! It did for me. I live in the US and met my wife who lived in China. We corresponded for 6 months, sent pictures to each other, and finally met when her company came to the US on a business trip. We hit it off and for the next year, she came down to visit and a couple months later I went to China to visit her and meet her parents and family. Keep in mind that it could be expensive to go this route because of airfare and those sort of things. Lastly she had another business trip scheduled and we got married during that trip.

Marrying someone from another country is not as easy at it seems. There's visa and passport issues, US Immigration forms and regulations, and much more. Most big internet dating sites will have a section to help with immigration issues. Things went fairly smoothly for us and we now have a beautiful 7 month old son.

Internet dating doesn't have to be about marriage and it will definitely differ for everyone. Maybe you just want someone to hang out with on the weekends and go to dog shows or a social outing or you want to go white water rafting but your friends aren't interested. Many people just want to make friends and not really label it as dating, but rather companionship and someone to talk to.

Other people may just want a companion because they are going on a trip to another area and would like a friend or someone to show them around at that destination.

What it boils down to is - What are your needs and wants?

Some free dating tips and dating advice I can offer based on my experience that helped me find the love of my life and also general tips are listed below.

• Be honest when you communicate
• Speak from the heart, don't try to be someone you're not
• Sign-up for more than one online dating site
  • Choose a general "big name" site.
  • Search Google or Yahoo by typing "dating dogs" or "dating armed forces" or "dating Christian"...etc
  • Only pay for the sites that you feel there are more than 5 profiles that match what you are looking for, remember most are free to sign up, but you will have limited capability.
  • Stay away from free online dating sites, you get what you pay for. The more serious a person is, the higher amount of money they will pay to find quality people. That means if someone on a particular dating site has the highest level membership (Gold Member) then they are serious about finding someone. 2nd to the highest level (silver) may be those who are serious but don't have a lot of money to spend. Anything less are in my opinion "gamers" and just passing time. HOWEVER! In countries or areas that are poor and under developed, they simply can't afford to pay the membership fee. They are probably using a computer at school, a library, or a friends, so you'll need to be extra patient.
  • Stay away from ads that don't have pictures or at least make sure they will send you a picture. Some people don't want to be seen in fear of their friends colleagues or family seeing them on the internet. That's perfectly understandable, just make sure you get REAL pictures once getting to know the person.
• Send and receive many pictures, insist on casual setting pictures and not professional retouched photos
• Be patient, if they live in another time zone it can be difficult to call
  • If they live in another country, get a calling card or use a webcam and microphone.
  • Since my wife didn't have a webcam, my phone bill averaged $1200 a month and I didn't know about calling cards.
  • Call your phone company and get a plan with better international rates.
  • There's more options today like VOIP (voice over IP) pc2phone that's a lot cheaper and the sound quality is much better now also.
• Ladies, when you do meet, make sure it's with one or more of your friends even for the first few dates. Safety first and if the guy can't understand that, then that's a RED flag!
• Ladies, purchase some books on pick-up lines, how to seduce a woman, and those sort of things. If your correspondence contains many of what you find in a book, then the person may not be sincere. If you're tired of finding losers, this is your wake-up call to find out why.
• Men, buy books on how to treat a lady. Buy books on how to seduce a woman, but only use it after you know they want to be seduced by you (later in the relationship).
• Be Honest! - If you're serious and want a life-long mate
  • Be upfront, put EVERYTHING on the table. Too many unexpected surprises will kill the relationship.
  • Don't try to be what you think the other person wants. You can't put on a show forever.
  • Get a webcam so you can see and hear the real person. Sometimes you get a glimpse of their room. Is it messy? Are there naked people hung up on the wall? It can also be a lot of fun once you are closer and can be more intimate. BE CAREFUL! What you do on camera can be recorded and exposed if things don't work out.
• Make a list of things you absolutely do not like or won't compromise on. For example, you dislike it when your partner drinks too much, does drugs or things like that. Don't ask these questions straight out, but have them elaborate when they had a night out with the guys/girls. Just keep a mental note to yourself.
• Make a list of the key things you like that make you feel adored and desired.
  • You like feeling pampered by getting breakfast in bed
  • You like it when doors are opened for you
  • You like it when girls pamper you
  • You like it when girls make you feel special
  • How does the other person perceive what making someone feel special is.
• What is your definition of joy and happiness?
• Be Honest! I know I keep saying that, but it's the most important thing!
• If you've been burned once too many times, do a background check on the person. You can find out if they have been married, divorced, in jail, law suits against them, and things of that nature. It costs a little money, but can save you years of heartache and disappointment. Some people may feel this is an invasion of privacy or a sign of not trusting the other person. I say it's a matter of feeling secure and if the other person can't understand that, then they are hiding something or don't care about how insecure you may be feeling. Another RED flag! Online dating has evolved to where it's common place to check on people.
• Have fun on your date but pay attention to
  • Do they open doors for you
  • Do they talk negatively about too many things.
  • Are their eyes busy wandering rather than focusing on you?
  • Are there too many lines or quotes from the dating books?
• You may want to keep a score card or write down notes immediately after the date. Just make sure you destroy them all when you are exclusively seeing that person. Nobody wants to know they are being compared, but it's a good way to make sure the person has all the qualities that are truly important to you. To be on the safe side, never ever write down anything relating to sex. Technique can be learned if the person is willing to satisfy you. Talk about it, if they aren't interested in what turns you on, that's another RED flag. Lets face it, sex is an important part of a relationship. For some it isn't but for the majority, it is. It's also a two-way street. In order to get, you must give and if you give, you should get. It's that simple.
• Is this person someone you want your family and friends to meet?
• And for the last time - BE HONEST!

I hope this article has helped and you feel more secure about online dating. I endorse it 100% and am not afraid to admit that I met my wife on through an internet dating site. It makes me feel good that out of the 200 or so other people that responded to her ad... she picked me :) I firmly believe that internet dating is the most efficient way to start a relationship and meet people.

I wish you the best of luck on searching for that perfect person.

How Men Find Sexy Russian Brides

Many of you may have wondered why Russian brides are so sexy and smart. The truth is only one: its their husbands that are giving them motivation to be such.

Have you ever wondered why there are so many men who have managed to find a wife who has so many indisputable virtues such as being smart, beautiful, sexy and rich?

The truth is that actually many Russian girls have started their family life out of nothing else but a desire to be part of the luxury lifestyle of the super millionaires. They are smart and intelligent but in addition they have worked hard to be well educated too.

Russia has internationally acknowledged universities such as the Moscow University or St. Petersburg Institute of Fine Mechanics and Optics. Many families have invested much in the good education of their daughters explaining to them that rich foreigners would never stay with a common woman in spite of her beauty.

Understanding that beauty is skin deep but being sexy is something one can learn and develop, young women have invested time and efforts to learn the art of innocent seduction. Usually in university Russian girls get the advantage of internship programs which allow them to travel the world and meet men on conferences or other scholar events.

If you have seen your sexy Russian bride during one of those events soon you will become convinced that sex is not just act, but state of mind and pleasure for the intellect. These ladies always support their husbands because they have been taught that family is very important and a wife's mission is to motivate the relationship.

Russian women are ready to sacrifice almost everything in order for her to prove her loyalty to you. Their good professional education makes them desired partners not only for family, but business affairs too.

Many top captains of industry are intentionally searching for wives from a country from the soviet block because they know that these smart girls are able to double their fortune. What is more challenging and sexy for businessmen than having bride with astute and clever thinking, easy-going attitude and seductive inclinations?

You might be a software engineer but she will help you become a software entrepreneur whose company might break the traditional market. Your Russian wife will make everything possible to make you believe that your choice was right and to stay behind you in difficult times.

And all of a sudden if you decide to drop everything, a typical Russian bride will help you solve your problems just in a few minutes. She may well do this by the way while making love with you and whispering a tender "davai, davai" (go on, go on) in your ear.

Like most women all around the world these ladies are looking for better possibilities for them and for their children. Wellness partially guarantees this but what is more important to them is their husband's education and character. Make your Russian bride laugh, tell her crazy romantic stories and prove that you can be good father.

International marriage is not an easy step. Things like cultural barriers or different traditions might make you confused. The good news is that in Russia, just like in America, women like erotic games. The combination of the two of you will result in everlasting physical and intellectual pleasure.

Dating - When Your Body Behaves Wrong

When you are all set to go on a date, here are a few guidelines to prevent you show wrong body language that can turn your partner off.

We shall talk about general mistakes people commit on dates.

First rules is, do not display that you have got anxiety.
We shall tell you how your body will try to reveal it even if you do not want to show it.

People generally shred napkins, foolishly sit on hands , and start playing with anything they get like their cell phone.

Feeling a bit nervous on your date is quite natural. That means you have got the flow of energy. That is a good thing. You just need to learn how to manage this flow of energy.

If you are looking quite nervous, you do not have to reveal it at any cost. Be calm, take deep breath.

Once you start feeling somewhat comfortable, your fear will go away and that energy level will help you a lot.

Another important thing is, never put your finger in your mouth. Some people have the very bad habit of doing it when they get nervous.

When you feel nervous, try to feel relaxed and let her talk more. Pay attention to what she says.

This is the best part about the girls; you can sit with them without speaking. All you need to do is, listen to them, and here you have cast your magic. Believe me it works.
Try these tips next time when you go on a date

Great Date Ideas

A lot of us know when together with a person (whether first date, twentieth date, engaged, or married) it is not only the company, but what you do together that keeps things interesting. A great deal of stress is taken out of 'dating' when the both of you are having fun.

Dating is supposed to be fun! No matter how old you are or how many dates you have been on, there is no reason that the next one cannot be better than the last.

Being engaged in activities and having fun, creates a relaxed environment and reduces anxiety and awkward moments on a date. Being comfortable and enjoying your surrounding creates the opportunity to enjoy your company as well.

We all know of the 'dinner and a movie' formula, but that is predictable and watching a movie does not even warrant a chance to talk to each other. Doing something novel and different will be appreciated by your date and will create a heightened sense of excitement.

Nothing is enthralling about routines; even if you and your partner have 'most-visited spots' it is okay to shake things up every once and a while, and you might find another spot that you can add to your repertoire.

The following is a list of 'different' places to go on a date. They range from public to private and active to inactive, but the difference lies in doing something out of the ordinary and that spawns fun and conversation. Aside from thinking about your hair looking great, having stellar charm, and the chemistry in the air, you need something to do. The following places and things are not ranked in any sort of order, they are there to help you generate some ideas and enjoy being with your partner.

- Take your date to a class or a lesson. There are many things out there to learn that could be interesting: an art class, dancing class, acting, pottery, etc.


- Everyone likes to laugh. A comedy club would be the place to go to enjoy a few chuckles with your date.


- Go to an art exhibit or museum. The visual stimulation will spark up some conversation and the venue presents an opportunity for you and your date to chat.


- Animals are interesting. Take your date to the zoo or aquarium and take a gander at some animals.


- Is it a nice day? Pack some food, a blanket, and candles and go have a picnic at the park or lake.


- Are you feeling lucky? Take your chances gambling at the casino to win some extra dollars along with your date's heart.


- Will there be a next date? Go to a palm reader and find out each other's fortunes. It will at least be fun if not completely scientific.


- Go see some live music. Find out what genre of music your date likes and see if any bands are playing local.


- Go for a ride. Order a limo and take a ride around the city for awhile and don't forget to stick your heads out of the moon-roof.


- Go take care of yourselves. Take your date to a spa and get a massage and facials.


- Have you ever been on a hot-air balloon? There is a first time for everything. Parachuting is also a high thrill to try out if you have never done so.


- Go to the theater or opera. Being cultured is a big turn-on for either sex.


- A sporting event can be a fun place to go. If you both are from the same area you can show your town pride together.


- Is the circus in town? How about a fair? It might seem puerile, but you are never too old to have fun!


- Go to a spa together. Getting a facial, body massage, and having your hair look great can be fun and aesthetically pleasing for you both.


- Go shopping together for a new look. Men could always use some womanly expertise on clothes and the guy can aid in giving his approval of a new, beautiful wig or other fashion accessory.


- If you own a motorcycle, going for a long ride on a nice day can be exhilarating.


- Miniature golf or chip and putt can be a good time. It is active and will provide time for conversation.


- Drive to the beach and take a walk along the shoreline.


- Go to a lake and take out a boat or canoe.

All of these events could work by themselves, but finding out about particular interests of your partner will help. Subtly get some information from them beforehand, so you can make your preparations. You could keep it safe with the dinner and movie, but if you really like the person and want to make a lasting impression, do something extra-ordinary.

Online Dating – Separating Facts from Fiction

All that a relationship really needs to sustain itself is a spark of energy. Today, there are more instances of relationships breaking off at the drop of a hat. Most of the times you would just want to get into a relationship to beat the loneliness that devours your life and eats away into your happiness. As a result the relationship ends in a disaster. Gone are the days when you met someone in your office and went out for a date. The Cyber-age brings with it the new rules of dating it is popularly known as online dating.

According to Marketdate enterprises in 2004, there were approximately 90 million singles in the US and according to Jupiter research, in 2003 approximately 3 million people paid to be listed in online dating services directories. According to other statistics, there are almost 86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women. So the gender ratio favors the men more than women but this doesn't really hold true for all the states. Washington D.C tops the chart with 70% singles, while New York is a close second with 50% singles or unmarried population. Hence online dating offers an option where men and women can meet on cyberspace and discuss each others likings and disliking and in a way get to know each other better.

The only problem with online dating is that you really don't know if the person on the other side is lying or not because you can only believe what they say or what they have put in their profiles. It almost like walking blind and there are times when people do fall into the trap but then that's the risk, which you will have to take. The good part is that you can go through thousands of profiles and check for the compatibility. There are times when you are looking for someone who listens to Jazz while you listen to Rock but that doesn't mean you are incompatible. You need to talk to the person to find out if you guys have anything in common or not. You may be surprised to find that both of you love the same food, movie and even drive the same car. That's a good start!

You can find true love anywhere and that includes online dating portals too. Online dating offers a better ratio as concerned to traditional dating because you can talk to multiple people at the same time. Everyone who puts his/her profile in online dating websites knows that their potential match is not restricted to just one. You can talk to and meet up with a few people and take it from there. It is always recommended to be cautious and you should take one step at a time. Know the person first and then take the next step. Relationship is not meant for the foolhardy, it is a bond that will last for the lifetime. So whatever decisions you make, they need to be well thought over. Online dating will offer you the platform, but how you need to take advantage of the opportunity will be your call.